Safe for Anyone?

Why not be content with a slice of life? Why is a moment not a sufficient feast?

Experience has taught me the moment is all I have, and it is more than enough. Yet, my ego remains suspicious. It believes there is more.

Byron Katie said, “when you want nothing from anyone else, you’re safe for anyone to be with, including yourself.”

Michael A Singer wrote that when we understand the world is merely something of which to be aware, then “the world will let us be who we are.”

In other words, go groundless, as Pema Chödrön calls it. Trust in myself and get comfortable with “getting tossed around with right and wrong.” Sit down in the “seat of self” (Singer).

I do manage to do that, from time to time, and when I do, my view of the world is completely changed. Whether in or out of the meditative state, in these moments I am who I am, and the world responds in kind.

It’s not pure, this awareness, just an evenness of mind. The banquet laid before me is more than I could ever imagine. This state stays until I try to hold onto it. The mere attempt at attachment and it evaporates.

My mind returns to ping-pong between the future and past regarding this and that. It whirs, images blur. What was clear and calm is chaos. And I begin to want, again.

Trusting in groundlessness seems impossible, yet how can I not?

Experience has taught me there is a point of balance in each day, no matter how pervasive the impossible. It is mine to find the fulcrum and respond with adjustments.

I have a greater appreciation of the unique, accepting that no day ever repeats. I’m grateful for that. Somehow, it lessens my fear that I am not enough.

With that confidence, I sit in the seat of self and open my laptop to Facebook for uniqueness in both the moment and in human beings.

We are born to difference, related to the stars by dust.

Some of the best Facebook threads are missed by those who comment without regard for reading. Often, that’s a source of irritation, resulting in much asserting of who is lacking. Soon, the original context is completely lost. So many are found wanting, and some demand it.

Social media context is easily misread yet what better opportunity to practice awareness, to get comfortable with “tossing around right and wrong.” It seems impossible, increasingly.

Sometimes, silence is the point of balance in my social media moments. The seat of self offers observation– allowing me to read—to listen hard for the tone. Selecting an emoji signals that I heard.

Sometimes, that is all I have.


7 thoughts on “Safe for Anyone?

  1. i have found moments of balance while practicing tai chi. moments where i am in the movement and not in my “self”. they are fleeting, but just knowing they are there is a comfort.

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    1. Yes, Craig–in the moment and not myself but beyond. I agree the moments are fleeting but just one experience seemed enough for me. As you say, that’s a comfort. I continue to seek that seat. Thanks so much, Craig!


  2. I find the welter of FB too intrusive to allow any inner silence. I want to know what others are thinking, but it seems as if opening the door lets in more confusion than content. I often seek inner quiet by looking closely at something in nature, usually something very small, like a single leave, or an ant making its way across the boulder field of a patch of sand.

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    1. Your description of the “welter of Facebook”–is perfect–reminds me of my mind, whether in meditation or attempting to bring the meditative state into social media. I love that and thank you for it, Adrian! Mine may indeed be a fool’s practice–at times it feels like it–yet there have been moments of awareness or as close as I ever get.


  3. Such beautiful points! I’m far from mastering being perpetually present in and appreciative of each moment, but working toward both is so powerful. It’s really interesting, the way moments are passed over seemingly more so online. I love what you said about Facebook – so true!

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