A Movement in the Making: Girl Boner®

Posted on by KM Huber in Consciousness, Writing

I sense spring in the air and that means it’s time for August McLaughlin’s Beauty of a Woman BlogFest, now in its seventh year. Writers explore beauty in all its facets, rather like the flowering buds of spring, eternal and empowered.

If you do not know the work of August and Girl Boner you are missing a “movement in the making.” Her weekly Girl Boner podcasts are “where good girls go for sexual empowerment.” Here, everyone has a place at the table. Everyone. I don’t miss an episode.

Embracing our sexuality is essential

for embracing our full selves.

August McLaughlin

Girl Boner is a way to fully appreciate the sexuality of the human experience–any gender, any age. As a sexagenarian I am at home here, and yes, I learn so much. GB Radio takes me to a world of people I would not know otherwise.

It is easy to feel invisible, as an aging woman, and some days I do but being part of the GB movement means having a place to go where who I am is respected. I am visible, and what I have to say is still of worth. My alternative view of the world is welcomed right along with my wrinkles.

People, even more than things,

have to be restored, renewed, revived,

reclaimed, and redeemed;

Never throw out anybody.

Sam Levenson (“Beauty of a Woman”)

Such equanimity of experience–primal, raw beauty–fills me with hope and strengthens my resolve in supporting the generation of women now emerging on the world stage, a movement in the making.

Eagerly, I follow in support and often bring up the flank, sometimes because experience, a bit of history, is all that is needed, and sometimes because I am a cis-gender lesbian. In the GB world what I offer is valued.

That we have not yet found equanimity in gender, our sexuality, speaks volumes about our struggle to live with and within the beauty that is each of us. We don’t yet know to celebrate the life of every bloom.

There is security in safety, wrapped tightly within ourselves, but it is not living. Every spring, the desire to burst forth is greater than to stay tightly wound.

That is the beauty of a woman, to know every spring, the only opportunity she has ever needed.

We are either going to have a future

where women lead the way to

make peace with the Earth or

we are not going to have a human future at all.

Vandana Shiva

This post is part of The Beauty of a Woman BlogFest VII! To read more entries, and potentially win a fun prize, visit the fest page on August’s McLaughlin’s site between today and 11pm PST March 9th.

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31 thoughts on “A Movement in the Making: Girl Boner®”

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  2. I am profoundly grateful for voices like August’s – and yours. About a year ago now, my then-12 year-old daughter came to me in tears and told me, “I like girls the way I like boys.” It turns out, that, at least right now, she likes them better than boys.

    I was raised in a family that considered anything other than straightness shameful. Tolerance wasn’t part of our vocabulary, let alone acceptance.

    Because of people like you, who share their realities and sexualities freely with others, I was able to gather in my vulnerable girl, and tell her that all that matters to me is that she be happy in her relationships, and that she treats her partners well, and chooses partners who do the same for her.

    As she grows into her identity and her future, accepted and free to just be as she is, I know how much sexual honesty has helped me to be her safety net.

    Thank you, August and Karen, from the bottom of a loving mother’s heart! ❤

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  3. A movement in the making indeed! The quote from Vandana Shiva was such a great way to end this post. It gave me chills! Thank you for supporting the generation of women now emerging on the world stage. We NEED your guidance, experience and wisdom!

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  4. There’s beauty in renewal, in freedom. There’s beauty in womanhood and female strength. Women are getting stronger and I even felt powerful (in a way) reading your words and sensing the solidarity. Thanks for a great post!

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  5. Thank you for this beautiful post and call to action. You are completely right. It is up to us to make a change for all of humanity! ❤

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  6. I believe we are entering the era of the woman. In this highly connected world women excel. We are more collaborative than competitive and I am hoping the era of ruthless competition is passing, that we enter an era of generosity–perhaps that is naive and foolish, but I am a woman and women hope.

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    1. It seems this “era of the ruthless competition” is destroying itself. To me, only women can take what is left and transform it because I think that is what they have been doing all their lives, in one way or another. You and I are women, and we do hope, and while we may have moments of naïveté and even foolishness, we are women, connecting and collaborating.

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  7. “That is the beauty of a woman, to know every spring, the only opportunity she has ever needed.”
    Beautifully said. We are afraid to open up and that’s what keeps us away from our own selves. Unless the bud blooms, how will the flower know its dimensions!
    Such a lovely and pure post.

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  9. What a beautiful, gracious and thought-provoking post, Karen, which is precisely what I’ve come to glean from your blogs every time! I’m so touched by those kind words about Girl Boner and ever grateful for your support.

    “Every spring, the desire to burst forth is greater than to stay tightly wound.” OMG, yes. THIS! Indeed, there’s much work to be done, but that desire is everything. It’s fuel and power and everything we seek. Thank you for all you do for equality and all you’ve done to help pave the way.

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    1. Aww, August. Such kind words. Thank you. As you say, there is so much work to be done but without the desire, there is stasis, which we cannot afford, especially now. Your GB work is changing lives every day, and it is inspiring to be part of that community. Thank you.

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  11. “We are either going to have a future where women lead the way to make peace with the Earth or
    we are not going to have a human future at all.” Vandana Shiva

    This gave me goosebumps, Karen. Since I am an optimistic person, I’m going to say that the former will happen, although you and I may not live long enough to see it. Maybe we will; wouldn’t that be grand? 🙂

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    1. I believe it will happen and that you and I will see it take root. I’m a realist, which I guess puts me somewhere between the negative and positive. And yes, it will be grand. 🙂

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  15. Karen, I always find new vistas of thought in your posts. I’m in complete agreement about Girl Boner. It has been so lovely to follow August’s path and to see how much she has brought to the dialogue on sexuality. Thank you for the beautiful words and pictures. You point out that all of us, all along the sexual spectrum, are beautiful.

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